Warm Milk: Physician Frustration
Posted by abodyofhope
This is a clip from the 1990’s television show Twin Peaks. This is how I feel dealing with physicians the past few years. It makes me laugh inside every time I watch it!
The struggle to communicate. The cutting off of life-lines and other doctors’ knowledge when you know it is needed. The times the condition has been worsened by negligence, yet we still say “Thanks!” and pay our co-pays. (Watching him sign that gratuity is SUCH a riot!) Although I’m usually the one to say, “I’ve heard of you” to the doctor, I’ve gotten the old thumbs up from them, out the door, as they appear happy to be through with my appointment. Ha!
The past few years especially when things have been very dire, getting one prescription or one piece of advice is so much like a glass of warm milk for Agent Cooper’s bleeding gun wounds. Sometimes you can advocate well for yourself and communicate on your own behalf clearly, working with your doctor who cares about your needs, and sometimes the situation doesn’t allow for that. Yet we still go in with so much hope that this appointment will be the one that will finally help; when the doctor doesn’t have ALL of the magical answers to solve everything wrong, it can be completely deflating.
Doctors are not gods. We put them on pedestals and then get mad when they don’t meet the high expectations we set for them. Some of us go in with very challenging health crises and when our doctors cannot make it right, we get very angry and frustrated at them. The entire situation is frustrating.
I have come to rely more on my faith in God the past few years over my faith in doctors or my faith in my body, even. Having a compassionate doctor that you feel cares- is a start. I’m very fortunate to have found one of those this year. But I still can’t get “Warm Milk” out of my brain!!!
This is a good article about communicating with your doctor from FindingOutFibro.
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About abodyofhopeI do not know why it is that we must wade through tragic circumstances to find truth. We nearly drown! But under the water, there are pearls. I hope in writing this blog, more will come to the surface. Over the past 15 years living with chronic pain, patient advocacy has had a powerful effect on my life through meeting so many remarkable teens, women and men: SURVIVORS. These individuals are HOPE personified. I wish to honor them in the same spirit they have encouraged me to press on. Eight years ago, I became bed-bound from a variety of secondary chronic illnesses. A procedure meant to help the pain condition I had been managing for several years- went bust #BIGTIME. Over the years, my entire life has changed. I have changed, but I am still striving to live my best life possible. Along with sharing inspiring pieces about spiritual wellness and finding quality of life inside of ongoing illness, I also share health research, awareness information, poetry, memes, art, and this blog is also an attempt to put my own pieces back together. Welcome to A Body of Hope, and thank you for visiting. [Complex Regional Pain Syndrome/ RSD, Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS), Dysautonomia, Chronic Intractable Migraine, Cluster headache, Trigeminal Neuralgia, Occipital Neuralgia, Hypersensitivity to Sound & Light, Fibro, CFS/ME, Cerebrospinal Fluid Imbalance......blah, blah, blah] >>> P.S. My headgear is protective for pain. I just rock it hard ;)
Posted on October 22, 2014, in Chronic Illness, Health, Humor, Video and tagged Chiari, Chronic Illness, chronic migraine, Dealing with Physicians, doctor's appointments, Fibro, going to the emergency room, life with chronic pain, MS, pseudotumor, RSD/CRPS, Spoonie, staying at the hospital, Twin Peaks Video, Video. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.
So true! This is great, I’m also linking back here from my article, and would love to keep adding more personal stories of dealing with health care professionals to the list. So many of us have experience in this area, but so few of us even want to admit that doctors can’t fix this, at least not yet. I definitely think it’s time we shared our frustrations. By being loud about how we have been neglected, mistreated, misdiagnosed, blamed, and treated with less care than we need and deserve, maybe the situation will change. Maybe the next time National Pain Report releases stats on how doctors feel about us, they will have improved dramatically. I certainly hope so. We are going in the right direction, thank you so much for writing this!
❤ and spoonie hugs
Preach sister! 😉
You are speaking the truth. We all deserve better. I’m with you, hoping for more improvement with chronic illnesses, chronic pain, and rare diseases. Overall compassion should just be a given!!
Thank you for your thoughtful comment, and also for your kind words on your post today. I do appreciate so much 😀 xoxo
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